We always hear books, podcast interviews that are full of discussions of positive mindset and successful lives. But we often underestimate the role of failure to build fulfillment (or extraordinary lives). Today we have a special guest with us Terry Tucker to give us great insights into how to deal with failure and how important is failure to become successful.
About Terry Tucker
Terry Tucker has been an college basketball player, a marketing executive, a hospital administrator, a SWAT Team Hostage Negotiator, a high school basketball coach, a business owner and most recently, a cancer warrior. He is also the author of the book: Sustainable Excellence, Ten Principles to Leading Your Uncommon and Extraordinary Life.
Take aways from this episode with Terry Tucker:
About success or excellence and the role of failure
When you're successful, you're not failing. That's true in a lot of ways. But at the same time, if you think about where do we learn about failure where do we learn about being defeated? We start out in our lives with our caregivers, whether that's our mother or father, you know, grandparents or siblings or whoever's, you know, raising us we learned about failing and we learned very early on, winning is good, failing or losing is bad. I think the road to success is paved with failure. Anybody who has ever succeeded, if they say have never failed, I would be extremely skeptical about them saying that but people get devastated when they fail. They feel like there's something wrong with them, if they do. But that's not the point. The major takeaway from failing is the lessons you learn along the way. If you fail and then stop that you're a quitter, but if you fail and you learn, then you're a smart individual.
Failure is the stepping stone to success
We are great about starting down the path towards a goal, something we want to do something we feel good about. And then we butt up against an impediment to something gets in our way, and we can't get around it. We can't get over it. We can't get through it. And so we quit. We just don't quit. We've got to blame somebody. We got to find somebody to blame. It's like we got to blame our parents or our boss or our station in life. Very few people take personal responsibility for their own success and happiness. So, failure is a part of success.
Trends about success in the society
I see two trends in our society. And maybe because we have this crisis with COVID that people had the time to rethink a little bit about the life purpose and I saw the trend of that is constantly repeated in corporations is about having vulnerability vulnerabilities. So that the fact of being ourselves and being able to communicate in a genuine manner, things that we are good at we are bad. So, there is a trend and necessity that has come out of the fact that the way we work has changed drastically. The importance of mental health in in our society finally got a little bit of a spot so when we were all excited pre COVID Making money progressing in Indian society, we didn't realize it and suddenly we got a small break to think about our position in the world and we start thinking about this type of thing. So that has made that a lot of the mindset in incorporation has changed and the other trend that is almost kind of Its kind of the opposite is that we are always because of social media we are always comparing benchmarking ourselves versus what we think is successful others, so we look at someone in Facebook and we say, oh, this guy has a car ha a Ferrari has a beautiful house. This is the level of success. So, it's almost like if we had to redefine success, we need to be we need to create a moment of self-awareness to create to dig inside of us about what is important for us so that we can define our own measures of success.
About the way we approach success
We want to be successful. We want to develop goals that will lead us toward success. The problem is, we haven't defined our values yet. You can have goals while you can . I don't know if you're going to be successful in those goals. But if you can first before you set goals before you develop new year's resolutions before you do all the kind of stuff that we seem to do every year and you know, the department's got to have goals and you've got to have individual goals, and the company's got to have you know, a mission statement and all that kind of stuff.
To get in touch with Terry Tucker:
His website: https://www.motivationalcheck.com/
Join the Sustainable Excellence Membership https://www.sustainableexcellencemembership.com/ you can also download his free ebook on Sustainable Excellence
About Learn with Bessern
This episode is hosted by Ivan Palomino. The Learn With Bessern Podcast is about exploring the science behind self-development, leadership and well-being. We demystify personal and organization growth.